As a woman who literally trembles with excitement when the UPS man drops off a new Zappos box, Ryan's fear of new shoes is sad and unfathomable to me. I love new shoes and like most women, I sacrifice comfort for fashion and sometimes the shoe doesn't fit, but, I still wear it...with band aids, peds, inserts or whatever it takes to be like Ryan, and convince myself that the shoe does indeed fit, even if the shoe feels terrible. Whether it's new shoes, a new activity, or a new experience, new is difficult for Ryan, so sometimes it's easier to hang onto old.
Does that make me a worried, overprotective mom or a hypocrite or both? "If the shoe fits, wear it" simply means, if it applies, take it to heart. As long as I am educating, advocating and protecting my son, I will continue to wear either one of those shoes regardless if the shoes pinch, rub, or feel uncomfortable. I will continue to describe Ryan as "more" so others never, ever think "less".
As Ryan and I both anxiously await the next change that comes around, hopefully we will be wearing our comfortable old shoes in order to make the journey a little less blistery. Hopefully, for the sake of my children and my husband, some tread remains on my shoes before The Big Change comes to town so, I can quickly run to the nearest pharmacy for some estrogen in order to make life a little more comfortable for all of us.